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• Hope Hartland: Dearest Bet, Joe and I are shocked and saddened by the passing of Doug! In short time we knew him, his unique sense of humor and joie de vivre made a great impact on both of us. You and your whole family are in our thoughts and prayers. Love, Hope
• John P. Frank: Doug was supervising a local remediation problem in Norwalk and was a real gentleman to deal with. He was very sensitive to our commission’s concerns about pollution getting into the harbor from the site. He will be missed.
• Jeff Duigou: Bet, Mr. & Mrs Zimmerman, Glenn, and Julie, My deepest sympathy for the loss of a truly devoted husband, son, brother, and friend. I have fond memories of tossing the football around with Doug and Glenn before thanksgiving dinner for many years on Mallard Drive, learning how to rock climb on Ragged Mountain, and multiple visits and calls to Doug at CTDEP working on environmental projects together. Doug was always there with a smile and a “How are you doing?” He always expressed interest in my environmental career and family life. He will be remembered as a devoted public servant, consummate environmental professional, and a friend.
• Gregory Duigou: Dear Mr.and Mrs. Zimmerman, Bet, Glen, and Julie, I will always remember Doug and the great times we had growing up on Mallard Drive. You have my deepest condolences and sympathy. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers as you deal with this tragic loss.
• Natalie Ketcham: Over the years working with Doug, I grew to have the utmost respect for him. He was knowledgeable, fair, and very conscientious, all with that ready smile to get what needed to be accomplished… done. He was an exemplary public servant, and I know he will be sorely missed by all who were blessed to know him. My deepest condolences to his family in this time of terrible loss.
• Keith Mailloux: Doug you will be missed by everyone who had the privilege to have known you. I am sitting here in disbelief that you of all people have gone before us, you with such a zest for life. However I take comfort in knowing that you lived your life to it’s fullest every day and experienced so many things and touched so many people. You will be missed my friend. Mr and Mrs Z, Julie, Glen and Bet, I am lost for words, I guess all I can say is I am so sorry.
• Paul & Florence Wilbur: Shocked and sadden beyond words., our hearts go out to you. Paul & Florence
• Russ Leathe: Dear Bet and Zimmerman’s You have always had a special place in my heart. How much fun and laughter we have had over the years. I am so sorry to hear about my dear cousin Doug. He could always find humor in everything. Just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers. Cousin Russ
• Gail White and Jeff Usher: A fine man who will be deeply missed. It has been a pleasure and privilege to know him.
• The Woodstock Historical Society: It has been the privilege of all of us at the Woodstock Historical Society to work with Doug. His enthusiasm, sense of humor, dedication, and hard work will be remembered. Doug organized wonderful public programs each year that enlightened and delighted all who attended. Thank you, Doug. You will be missed.
• Bill & Norma Jean Loftus: Dear Bet, We were so saddened to learn of Doug’s passing. We will always remember his generous contributions of time, talent and energy to our community as his spirit continues to live on in our midst. We extend our deepest condolences for your loss. Bill, Norma Jean, Caroline and Will Loftus
• Don Johnston: Doug was truly a “one of a guy” person. You could tell that he was a truly caring person who would do anything for a friend or family member. He was always upbeat, supportive & had a smile on his face. I heard he lived life the same way as he played softball… willing to run through a chain linked fence in order to help the team. He was truly a gentleman. I always enjoyed speaking to him whether it was at a softball game or in the grocery store. I will miss him.
• Robert & Patricia Shuler: Life has blessed you in many ways. You shall be missed by all.
• Richard Louis: As an environmental contractor, I have worked with the CT-DEP for 28 years; for the past 10 years…Doug has been my ‘go to’ guy. Always pleasant, always reasonable and always willing to help in any way possible; but it was the joy in his voice and his servants heart that made him such a pleasure to ‘do business’ with Doug. Speaking with him always…ALWAYS!…left me feeling good about myself and good about (gulp!) ‘State government’; if Doug could make government a pleasure to work with, I can only imagine the blessings that his personal friends and family had from knowing him. I will miss his counsel, his advice, his good nature and most of all, his shared heart and love of life. May God bless and strengthen his family and friends through this difficult time.
• David Lis: We are sorry to hear of Doug’s passing. I knew Doug for years at the DEP and enjoyed many discussions of our mutual interest in hiking and backpacking and all things outdoors. Doug was a real gentleman and will be missed. Condolences to the family. Best wishes, David and Anna Lis and family
• Pamela Elkow: I cannot tell you how saddened I am by Doug’s death. He was at DEP and I’m an environmental attorney, yet I feel like I worked WITH Doug. He brought a sense of professionalism, practicality, and humor to his job that made it a pleasure to work with him. I think of him as a friend, and will miss him tremendously. Pam Elkow
• Dennis Waslenchuk: It has always been a great pleasure to be in Doug’s company. I miss him dearly. My best wishes go to Doug’s extended family.
• Mary Delano Webster: Doug was the life of the neighborhood. I have such fun memories of the many neighborhood parties and just seeing him out working on his home, or taking care of the animals …what a terrible loss. My sympathies to all of Doug’s loved ones.
• Ted Stevens: Dear Bet, I am terribly saddened to hear of Doug’s passing. He always had a smile and an outgoing friendly nature, going back to the days on Washington Street. And in more recent years, Doug was the best at cordially meeting with consultants like myself, answering questions and getting the job done with helpful, practical advice. He will be sorely missed by all who worked with him and knew him as a colleague and a friend. My thoughts and condolences are with you. Sincerely, Ted Stevens
• Pat Kaneda: I met Doug and Bet at my cousin David’s on several occasions. It was always at a party, but wherever Doug was, it was a party. Please accept my deepest sympathy which I extend to his wife, his family and his many friends. After the pain of loss, memories of him will warm you. Sincerely, Pat Kaneda
• Nancy Reed: Dear Betty Ann, We just can’t believe this tragic news about Doug. I know what a wonderful life you’ve had together and I can’t tell you how sad all of us (esp. Kim, Barbara, Dana and Hale) are to think of you without him. We will see you on Sat. lovingly, Nancy and Hale
• Elsie Patton: Dear Bet, I can’t even begin to express how saddened I am by Doug’s death. I send all my condolences to you and the rest of his family. I will always remember his incredible ability to make every one around him smile and laugh even under difficult circumstances. I will miss him enormously. Elsie
• Gary Robbins: I was very saddened to learn of Doug’s passing. We were about to embark on a great adventure of discovery together on a research project in Stamford. I will miss his wisdom, encouragement and support. God bless you all.
• Ross Bunnell: To Bet and to all of Doug’s family, I offer my deepest sympathies on your loss. There aren’t many people in this world that are as exemplary in so many ways as Doug was, and to lose such a shining example of humanity so suddenly must be a heavy burden to bear. I, too, feel your loss, and think warmly of all the years Doug spent with me and the other DEP softball team members, both on the field and having pizza and refreshing beverages afterwards. Doug will be sorely missed here at DEP. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
• Jim Dziuba: Dear Bet, When we all sat at the table at the ECSU dinner in April, it was fun to talk with Doug about our college days. I knew him for close to 35 years, and the energetic, smart, and motivated undergrad I remember from college translated into the same qualities as a colleague at DEP and then as a regulator I worked with. Doug liked to solve problems, and that quality defined all the good he did. He made a difference in our world – that is what he wanted most, I think. How nice of you to honor him through the ECSU Earth Science Fund. He would like that. My heartfelt condolences, Bet. Sincerely, Jim Dziuba
• Sheri Hardman: Working as a consultant in the environmental field for the past 20 years allowed me to work with Doug on several projects. He was always a pleasure to work with, was fair, courteous, and respectful. Passing him in the halls at the DEP I always remember a smile on his face. I was shocked and saddened to hear of his passing. He will be greatly missed. My condolences to his family during this difficult time.
• Carol (Rooney) Shea: Bet my heart goes out to you. I’m so sorry to hear about Doug. I’ll keep you in my prayers. Sincerely, Carol (Rooney) Shea
• Joe Chapuis: Bet asked me to share the link below. It is a short video clip she shot a few years ago of Doug dancing on a stage in the rain. (I couldn’t help but add a little background music. He hated me for it.) This is the Doug we all knew and loved, and typifies his joyful, fun-loving, and light-hearted spirit. And it’s a reminder of why we’re all going to miss him so damn much. Enjoy: http://go.webvideoplayer.com/view/HghEC3ZMFXmNpRfSi0rP5896 -joe chapuis
• Patty and Bob Lee: Doug’s passing was a shock to all of us. The love and friendship the two of you shared is an example to all of us. Our prayers are with you.
• Jeff Stefanik: Bet, Donna and I are deeply saddened and shocked by the news and I hope you can find some comfort in the best wishes of Doug and your many friends. I hope you can find some peace during a difficult time.
• Rich Hathaway: Bet, I was shocked and very sad to hear about Doug. You and Doug are two of the nicest people I have ever known–and two of the most fun to be around. I always appreciated Doug’s sense of humor and practical nature when I worked with him at DEP. I already missed Doug since I left DEP some time ago, but I will miss him even more now. Rich Hathaway
• Bill Madia: At these times, words cannot properly express the sense of loss nor the overwhelming love and support of your many friends in the Northwest. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers at this most difficult of time. regards, Bill and Audrey
• Bev & Earl Brazeal: Dear Bet, We are both so saddened to hear of Doug’s passing. He always had a such terrific smile, he worked so diligently on producing such fine programs for the Historical Society, we will miss him terribly. Bev & Earl Brazeal
• Mary Daum: Dear Bet and all of Doug’s extended family — there are no words to describe this shocking and sad loss. Wishes for strength and love to continue on. It is beyond understanding why he was taken so early, but I guess he was needed to climb the highest mountain of all. Much love, Mary
• Paula Ziebarth: Dearest Bet, My heart aches for you. Please know that you are deeply loved by many. I pray for God’s special care of Doug and for strength and solace for you. Love, Paula
• Pauline Tom: Bet, Tears well in my eyes, with this shocking news. I’m so sad for you. Oh, I’m so glad for the special times we had with Doug at NABS Conventions and in Woodstock. I remember that funny game show he helped you put on at NABS 2006. He lived life with gusto. Love,
• Tom Sheridan: Dear Bet: You have my heartfelt condolences. I am sorry I never knew Doug but knowing you and reading all these comments I can understand somewhat the magnitude of your loss. Our prayers are with you. Tom
• Fred Q. Vroom, M.D.: Bet, You give so much to the rest of us with your dedication, meticulous detail and voluminous information. We are saddened for your loss. Respectfully, Fred
• Michael Granata: Doug, I am honored to have known you from our days at Eastern to forever. I will always remember you with a smile. Mike
• Dan Sparks: Dear Bet, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of Doug. It sounds like he is a great guy! Sometimes life is very difficult and hard to understand…this is one of those times. Know that you have a friend that has you in his prayers! Dan
• Tom Comfort: Dear Bet, The message of Doug’s sudden passing deeply saddened me. I know you have found a sign that his spirit continues in your heart. You and Doug have touched many people. My life has changed from your dedication and devotion. I can see that Doug also made the world a better place in the short time he had to share. We learn from those we love. Now we can reflect on all we have learned,.. never to be forgotten and to be shared with others. tc
• Martha Klimas: I was very sad to hear of Doug’s passing and for your loss. Over the years whenever I needed help with an environmental issue, or trying to find the right person to call, I always called Doug first, and he was always there for you, always with a smile, always his pleasant manner and always a helping hand. That was Doug and his mark on this world will be felt for a long time – he will truly be missed.
• Melissa Notis: Bet: I am sincerely sorry for your loss! Doug had a wonderful way of bringing out the best in all of us! I hope we all follow his example and live life to the fullest like he did! With deepest sympathy! Melissa
• Brian Carey: Zimmerman Family, I was deeply saddened to hear of Doug’s untimely passing. Doug was always so great to deal with it at the CTDEP and his warm manner was always noticed. I recently had the opportunity to take a long walk with Doug in February on Long Beach West in Stratford during the start of a long planned remediation project. I remember that during the long walk that we both expressed to each other how lucky we felt that we had jobs that gave us the opportunity to be outside and fulfill our passion for environment. Doug was truly a great person and I feel blessed that I was able to share that walk with him. My deepest condolences for your loss. Brian Carey
• Carol Ogeka: Dear Bet, We were so shocked and sadden to hear about Doug. Try to stay strong and remember the great times. Kind thoughts and prayers are with you. Carol and Greg
• Loren & Gretchen Hughes: Bet. I was so very sorry to hear the news about your husband, you have our deepest sympathy and our thoughts and prayers are with you always.
• The Tivnan family: Bet, words cannot express how sorry Jen,Julianna,Callista,and myself are feeling about your loss. We are still in shock about Doug’s passing. We think you and Doug are two of the most beautiful people we have ever met. When we moved to this neighborhood several years ago you and Doug were the first neighbors we met and you made us feel very welcome to a part of the Valley. I feel the neighbors are all very close to each other and Doug and yourself had alot to do with it. I want you to know my family is here for you when you need us. The Tivnans
• Gail Storm: My sincerest condolences Bet, for your loss. I know that Doug must have been the most wonderful man or he wouldn’t have chosen you to share his life with. He has shared you with the rest of the world in such a gracious manner that it’s not hard to know he must have been a generous, caring and loving husband. I’m so sorry for your loss………you are in my thoughts and prayers.
• Alice Ikenberry: Bet, There are no words I can think of to try to tell you how much grief I feel for you and your family and friends. Although, I did not have the pleasure of meeting Doug in person, I feel as though I know him through your wonderful ability to capture your lives in word and pictures. You two had such a wonderful relationship! Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.
• Glenn Hoenes: Bet – I just heard of your lose. My deepest sympathy. Although I did not know Doug, your annual letters made me feel as if I did.
• Anna Bou: We are so saddened by your sudden loss. It sounds like Doug was an amazing human being. The relationship the two of you had is a fine example for all of us. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and may fond memories give you some comfort and peace. Anna Bou and Les Hill
• Neta Rice: Dear Bet and Family, Our hearts and prayers are with you. There are no words sufficient to ease your loss. Only the blessing of having Doug touch your lives, and the Grace of our Lord will help you continue on. May you find peace and comfort in all that Doug brought into your lives; and strength through our Lord. Doug is there with you in the flutter of each bluebird’s wing and the touch of a breeze upon your face. May God be with you, and grant you peace. Sending you love on a wing, Neta, Duane and Carrie Rice (bluebird friends from Tennessee)
• Bob Walshaw: Dear Bet – He is with his Bluebirds now. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. God bless you. Bob Walshaw.
• Pat carr: Dear Bet, I am so very sorry to hear of Doug’s passing. I see how blessed you are to have had Doug in your life, and will remember you in my thoughts & prayers at this time. Know that you you and family are in the prayers of many … With Sympathy, Pat
• Kami Lowry: Dear Bet- I am so sorry for your loss. Although I never had the privilege of meeting Doug, I enjoyed hearing your stories and the evening phone call updates. It was obvious you adored him and he adored you. My heart aches for you during this sad time.
• Robert & Tamara Nielson: Bet- We were so disappointed when we heard the news. We didn’t have the pleasure of knowing Doug well, but we will miss his environmental advise and his memorable contributions to our annual Christmas card. What a life! We are so sorry for your loss, and our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family always. Love, Robert, Tamara, Chris & Meg
• Tina Gallagher: My heart goes out to my sister and Doug’s family and friends for the loss of this unique individual. Since I was not able to attend the memorial services, I held my own memorial service at my computer. Please visit Doug’s channel on YouTuba at http://www.youtube.com/douglaszimmerman Uploaded with love, Tina
• Jason Stanton: Bet, We are very sorry to hear this sad news. Doug was a good neighbor. The Stanton Family
• Christene Tafoya Jordan: My Dear Friend Bet — I am so sorry and sick to hear of your loss, our loss, the loss to so many. I had no idea until moments ago. I am just shocked and speechless. Doug was one of the dearest people I’ve ever known and in your last correspondence to me you expressed how happy the two of you were and how much fun you had together, how much you loved each other how blessed you were to have him in your life. You were fortunate and blessed to have one and other. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please let me know what I can do to comfort you. I am so very sad and sorry . God’s Blessings. Christene
• Bev Jankowski: Dear Bet, If you have the patience and the courage to read all these condolences, I would like to offer mine. You have been such a big help to me with bluebird, wounded bird, etc questions. I have read all that you wrote about Doug and viewed all the pictures, now I feel that I missed out on knowing a very sweet, caring, humerous and unique human being. Congratulations on your good fortune of loving him and having his love in return. Surely his happiness is portrayed in the “goofy” pics that your sister posted. I will keep you in my caring thoughts. Bev J. Dear Joan, Larry and Family, Our deepest sympathy to all of you on your great loss. May God's peace be with you. Betsy Fox and Family
• Bet and the Zimmerman family I am so sad to have heard the news about Doug's sudden passing. I had just begun to work on some cleanup projects where Doug and his team are the CTDEP's reps and even though the sites were controversial, Doug was always a decent, respectful and showed that sense of humor at just the right time! As you know, we started at the CTDEP at the same time and I cannot believe that such a great fellow is gone. My prayers go out to you and your family ...may you find joy and comfort in the memory of his great spirit! ~ Diane Lauricella, Norwalk, Connecticut
• Bet and family, Our sincere sympathy. We hope your happy memories sustain and enrich your life as you cope with the sadness of losing Doug. Your friends from Celebrating Agriculture ~ Dawn Pindell, Brooklyn, Connecticut June 14, 2010 Bet and the Zimmerman Family, Doug was a really wonderful man-truly irreplaceable- he will sorely be missed in the state of Connecticut. Edith
• Bet, Joan and Larry, and all Doug's family - My sincere condolences on your tragic loss. The DEP will never be the same without Doug's irreverent humor, his puns and especially his limericks! Rest in peace and keep climbing Doug. Gaby ~ Gabrielle Frigon, Union, Connecticut
• Bet, we are so sorry to hear about your tragic loss. We know that there is nothing we can say but we want you to know that you are in our thought and in our prayers. Mom just got your Mom's message, we are sorry we didn't get it sooner we would have been there. Hope to be in touch very soon. Love Mona and family ~ Mona Wilke, Manchester, Connecticut
• Bet, I met Doug at the NABS conference last year -- cool guy. Mary and I are shocked and saddened to hear of your loss. We are deeply sorry. ~ Paul Kilduff, Baltimore, Maryland
• Oh Bet, I'm so sorry to hear! I just read the article on The Dairy Industry in CT, that you wrote about, the exhibit at The Pink House, & Peter told me about Doug. I just can't believe it, Take care as best you can. Peace & Grace, Kristin & Peter Orr ~ Kristin Orr, Thompson, Connecticut
• Bet, I am so sorry to hear this sad news. My thoughts, prayers and deepest sympathy go out to you. Janie Hoffman Atlanta, Georgia
• Words can not express my sympathy for what you have lost, may God continue to uplift and sustain you. ~ Cindy Zens, Gloucester, Virginia
• Bet So very sorry to hear this horrible news. My prayers and condolences are with you. Cathleen Apley Bluebird friend
• Unfortunately i never had the chance to meet Doug , but i am sure he was like his brother Glen and was the salt of the earth kind of guy. I am sure he will be truly missed. My heart and prayers go out to the entire family at this difficult time. ~ Bill Smethurst, Bow, New Hampshire
• Bet, only today did I hear this very sad news. I'm so very sorry. My sincere condolences to you and your family. ~ Cherie Layton, Central, New York
• I grew up knowing and playing with Doug through our schools years at Barnes and O'connell schools in East Hartford. I truly can not think of a nicer kid out of the whole bunch. Always smiling. From what I've read here, he turned out to be a wonderful man as well. Thanks Doug for working so hard to protect our world! ~ Dwight Slocum, East Hartford, Connecticut
• Doug was my first supervisor when I started working in 1988 back at 122 Washington. He always had a smile and he made the time spent with him out in the field, fun and educational. He almost always had something positive to say even when the rest of us were complaining and he always had a joke or funny story to tell. Even though I haven't worked for him in many years, I will always remember him as one of the best parts of my career. He will be missed but never forgotten. He truly left a wonderful imprint on all who were lucky enough to know him. To his family, I wish and pray for you, many, many happy memories especially now in this most difficult time. Also, to his parents, I say Thank you. You gave us an extraordinary gift and I, for one will always appreciate it. You are and will being my thoughts and prayers. Peg from DEP ~ Peg Sargis, Cromwell, Connecticut
• I worked with Doug at the DEP for the past two years. Never once did I see Doug without a smile on his face. His laugh was contagious. He was a hard worker, always at his desk focused on getting the job done. He was a very kind and humble man. Truly a man who set an example for all of us to follow. He will be missed by all of us here. My prayers go out to all of his family and friends. ~ Ryan Santos
• Dear Larry and Family, We are very sorry for the loss of your brother Doug. You're in our thoughts and prayers. Gerry and Linda Horan ~ Gerald Horan, Amston, Connecticut
  

• I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. ~ Nathalie Robinson, Yonkers, New York
• I worked for and with Doug for many years. I recall two of his bestest advice to me: Come into to work, do your best, and go home and forget about it until the next work day; and If you don't look you will never know. June 10, 2010 Larry and Joan, We are so sorry for your loss. We pray you find some comfort in the love and support of your family and friends. With deepest sympathy, Janice and Kevin Grady ~ Janice Grady, Amston, Connecticut
• Dearest Bet, Aunt Joan and Uncle Larry - There are no words to express the loss I feel of my beloved cousin, Doug. There are countless stories of love and laughter we have shared since birth which will be with me forever and knowing one day we will be together dancing on the streets of gold with Grammy, mom and dad. I love you! Robin ~ Robin Neil, Quechee, Vermont
• Please accept our deepest sympathies. Doug was our neighbor & friend for over 20 years. The Valley won't be the same without him. All our love. The Jewell Family
• To the Zimmerman Family, my condolences. My prayers are with you. Doug was always smiling and always happy. He did enjoy life. I am sure he will be entertaining the Big Guy in the sky. Tom Zerio
• It is sad to see someone like Doug go. He left a legacy and that's what he will always be remembered. May God give him peace/
• Hi, Our committee Save Our Shores in Greenwich, Connecticut, want to express our deepest sympathy. Doug was always there for us. If we needed advice, knowledge or support for all of the environmental projects that he could handle. The DEP will having enormous difficulty to replace someone of his character and work ethic. He will be missed by all the members of Save Our Shores ~ Josephine Conboy, Greenwich, Connecticut
• Joan and Larry, You are in our thoughts and prayers. Chris Dulcie Connor & Koby Davis East Hartland, Ct.
• My daughter Danielle and I would like to express our deepest sympathy. My the Blessing of the Our Lord bring you peace today, tomorrow and forever.
• Thank you for sharing [the video and website.] It is obvious he was a very kind and special person who will be greatly missed, but whose spirit and love of life will live on through all those he touched.
• I’m so sorry. I only met Doug once, at your wedding. But I got to know a bit about him through your occasional e-mails and your Christmas cards. It was so obvious that he loved you and that he was incredibly happy to be with you. And it was just as obvious that you loved him. I don’t think I’ll ever see a man as happy on his wedding day as Doug was. I can still see him standing outside, crying during the ceremony in complete happiness. And I still laugh about the fact that despite all the crap you gave him in those Christmas cards, there were always pictures of him smiling, goofing, probably doing whatever he could to make you happy. You were so lucky to have someone like that in your life.
• Hold on tight when you get a chance to hug someone.
• Bet, Be kinder to yourself.... everyone understands and loves you.
• Take your time, Bet. People will understand. (Hug)
• Bet, my thoughts are with you in this time of loss. May comfort and peace rise from the many cherished memories you hold so dear.
• Bet, Your strength is incredible
• [re organ donation] What a wonderful way to show gratitude and appreication for Doug's ultimate gift.
• Just so you know I would read your Christmas letters to people who are complete strangers to you and would get them to laugh loudly - you have always been a phenomenal writer and I remember many countless Sunday afternoons sitting in your bedroom while we tried to produce Klingler papers that were due the next day....it is obvious you loved Doug with your whole being and for that I am sure you are eternally grateful. Stay strong.....
• Oh Bet. I can not even begin to imagine your loss and pain. Doug was such a wonderful man and we are all better off for having known him. There truly are no adequate words to express how I feel. I will miss him. I hope you are able to find some comfort in the fact that during his life he knew joy, happiness and love with you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
• You are in our thoughts and hearts. All our love.
• Bet, I'm very sorry for your loss.
• Bet, I am so sad for you and Doug and have been thinking about you, wondering how you are doing. Knowing how close you two were, how crazy open and honest you two were with each other, how much you had in common and liked to spend time together, just didn’t know how you could handle such a shock—and the injustice--too young, too good, and too fun.I am so glad that you sent me the link to this web site. It is such an honor to Doug—and you, and all the people that you touch. You never cease to amaze me and even now it seems that it is you who makes me feel better by sharing this celebration of Doug’s life, which was so boldly and warmly lived. Your protective hand cloud pictures are amazing and I’ve never seen clouds like that. Definitely a sign. I will keep in touch and hope you will do the same. Will be thinking about you often and know that you and the bluebirds will find your way in time. You and Doug are inspirations on how to make the most of the physical time we have on earth. All my love. You’re in my thoughts.
• How blessed we are to have known Doug. How blessed Mark is to have had the opportunity to work with Doug for many years and to share the love of running with him as well. I have coined a new phrase in this house - "Do A Doug" - which will remind us to be kind, filled with love and humor and helpful to others. (read more)
• No one who knew Doug will ever forget him because he made our lives better as well.
• To the Zimmerman family, Our thoughts and prayers are with you. The Class of "75" George J. Penney High School
• Dear Joan, Larry and Family, Our deepest sympathy to all of you on your great loss. May God's peace be with you. Betsy Fox and Family
• Meeting Bet and Doug was one of the highlights of going to the NABS conference in PA last year, for me personally. I often had wondered, who the man behind Bet's incredible indertaking was, and what kind of man he must be. I thought he must be an exceptional person, and I was right. He and my wife hit it off, because, like Doug and Bet, she is a cat person. They mentioned they brought their cat along for the trip, and shared pictures of their "child" with my wife. Anyway, we shared a few moments over the next few days, including a bidding war over a nest box, at the auction. Bet won, of course. When a young man, such as Doug passes from this world to the next, we often see it as tragic. A life cut short. The potential of things yet to come, left undone. We look at the number of years he lived, and see it as brief, especially compared to others who live many more years. But I try not to do this. I try to see the good that was done in the brief time the man walked the earth. Many men live long lives, in numbers, but don't really accomplish a whole lot, in that amount of time. I say, look at the quality of the life the lead, not the quantity of years. My own father,was only 41 when he died. But he lived a life that was full, in those short 41 one years. He was happy, healthy,and gave of himmself selflessly to others in need. He left quite an example to follow, and nothing ever made me happier, than to hear people tell me, how proud my father would be of me, if he were alive today. They say,"only the good die young" and from my own experience, I can see why. If my father were living, he would be 87. I simply can't imagine him at that age. To me, he will always be young, strong, good looking,hard working, and an inspiration to all the other young men who worked with him and for him. Doug also leaves behind, such a legacy as this. He will never grow old and feeble. He finished the race at the top of his game. His memory will be one others aspire to emulate. And that, my friends. is no reason to be sad. I'm glad I got to meet he and Bet. It was truly inspirational. - Duane Rice Clarksville, TN
• It's quality of life, not quantity, that makes the difference. Dan and I were fortunate enough to meet Doug and Bet at the NABS conference last September. I only wish we'd had the opportunity to spend more time with them and get to know them better. - Nancy Feagans Redondo Beach, California
• Doug was always able to bridge gaps and always was a maker of peace no matter how an incident might initially affect him or who he was dealing with on a matter. That takes skill, toughness, and character.
• I am sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. With heartfelt condolences, Diane B (ORNL)
• I heard about your loss, and wanted you to know my thoughts and prayers are with you. I pray that God will grant you the peace that surpasses human understanding in the days ahead. Sandy B., (ORNL)
• I am so very sorry. I didn’t know Doug very long, but he seemed like a wonderful husband and your best friend. God Bless you and take care, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Karen D.
• My sympathies to you and your family. So sudden. I so enjoyed working with him. Linda, Putnam Town Crier
• I continue to express my love and appreciation for all that [my partner] does for me. I think of Doug when I do it. - V.B., California
• Thinking of you Bet! Doug will always be remembered! - Julie Blake
• We read your column about the loss of your husband and thank you for sharing with us your grief. That is a helpful and meaningful way for all of us to understand and emphasize with you and your family. May the comfort of God be with you all. Ed & Barbara V., Woodstock
• I just wanted to say how sorry I was to hear of your loss, and to tell you how much I'll miss your column. I looked forward to it, it was the best part of the Villager. I hope with the passage of time, when you're feeling better, that you might resume your writing. Thanks so much for all you do for the environment, and our little piece of the planet! Tracy D, Woodstock
• We were so sorry to learn about the lose of your beloved husband and pray that things will get easier for you as time passes. The lose of a loved one is certainly not something that we are ever truly prepared for in life no matter what the circumstances are. - Bette and John V.
• Betsy M on July 6th, 2010. I’m lost for words but would like to express how sad I am right now and how I know you are hurting. Sometimes I wonder what the higher being must be thinking…having us all go through loss is cruel and unjust. Some believe it is the natural cycle of life…which though it is…..it still doesn’t bring the comfort and joy that the person brought…. My thoughts are with you Bet. My empathy is profound. I was just thinking “Yesterday” what I would l do if I lost the only person and family I have – my husband… So this news comes to me in a time that ….I can see how my fear can so easily come to reality. Much Love Bets
• I am really sorry for your loss. Doug was a great man that I have many fond memories of while growing up in Woodstock Valley. He ...understood and supported my physical training (in my old barn if you recall) and attempts to eat right. And that was just one of the great stories that I remember about him. Michael D.
• The family is broken without Doug...it is going to be a long, slow heal. Julie (Doug's sister)
• I wish you all the best. I can only imagine how difficult this must be and I wouldn’t even attempt any words of wisdom. Please know you can call on us and on me if you need anything in the future. David S.
• I just read the beautiful article in Bluebird about your husband, Doug's, passing. I am so very very sorry for your great loss. What a wonderful man he was. Like you, full of life and loving and caring about all that lives. How very fortunate for both of you that you found each other and had the years you had together. My truest and deepest condolences to you and your and Doug's families. His life's legacy should make others want to care more to make a difference in some way. A big hug to you, Bet. Like your husband, you are true blue and always there. Thank you, Claudia D.
• I just heard about the untimely death of your husband and I wanted to send you my sincerest condolences. Things like this aren't suppose to happen, particularly to people who are so good, and true and loving as you and Doug were to each other. If there is anything I can do to help you during this difficult time, please let me know. My thoughts and concerns are with you. - Steve F.
  
• I pray that your hearts may find peace that only time and healing can bring. You are that extension of him. That special other half that the world is gifted to know and love. "No there will never be another one like him!" But what made him so special was that you were the other 50% of what made him who he was. Melissa N.
• I hope the warm summer weather is helping to heal your broken heart. Be sure to rest when you can. Sometimes it’s stillness that can restore our strength to pick up and go on for yet one more day. - Sheila M.
• All of us who knew Doug remember him as a nice, great man to work with. May you find the peace and comfort in this tough time. - Juan Perez
• I worked with and knew Doug for many years, and he will be sorely missed. He was always kind, thoughtful, generous, sincere, knowledgeable, and on and on - a valued public servant, a beloved colleague and a true friend. - James Chow
• It was always a pleasure to work with Doug. We will greatly miss his commitment, gentle approach and sense of humour. Deepest sympathy to your family - Stephanie Carr
• Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time. Deepeest regrets - Aaron Gilbert.
• I can't imagine how very hard it is for you. Yet, I saw your and Doug's connection/could feel it even. While I am sure there are moments you feel blessed that you had this with Doug, it must make the loss off the charts. - A.C.
• Our hearts and sympathy are with you as you find your way now. Doug was a wonderful friend and neighbor. He will be missed in so many ways our our family. We feel honored and privileged to have known such a good and kind man as Doug. - The Johns
• I was sorry to hear about Doug today.... I only met him a few times but it wasn't hard to tell he was one of the good guys. Hope you are getting along ok, You and Doug will be in my thoughts. C.L.
• You have been on my mind, heart and invading my sleep since we learned about Doug's passing. I can't even imagine, and I won't pretend to - but I want you to know that we are thinking of you, missing you, praying for you (even if you don't believe in God . . . we do . . . and he's on my side :-) . . . . . I am so very, very sorry....One day at a time - one step at a time . . . S.D.
• I remember Doug from my years at ECSC. We lived in the same dorm for the first few years. ....I remember him being a really nice guy. Friendly, caring and down to earth. It sounds like he continued those traits throughout his life. What a beautiful obituary. What a huge loss for all those who loved him. I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and heart during this terrible time. Take care. Sincerely, M.B.L.
• I have good memories of being around Doug when I was growing up--playing basketball with him, sitting around the neighborhood's campfires in the summer nights (he knew and sang all the words to the Gilligan's Island theme song), and going to his epic birthday parties and his "returning from my last rock climbing adventure" parties.....I just want you to know that even I think of Doug a lot, he was such a great guy and every so often (more often than I ever expected) he floats into my head and I think of how I wish I had reconnected with him before he passed P.D.
• On my way home from the P.O. ...., I sometimes saw you both walking ..... I would wave and you'd give the polite return, never really knowing who just passed. But that was o.k. I had already received my treat; the return of my smile. It wasn't just seeing you walking together, but the holding of hands. A sign I took to be a much deeper displays of love. A sublime sign of trust. A tenet for which all relationships are based. To a person robbed of that primal instinct of survival, trust in others, you offered hope for its return. How nice! What joy! After a long and testy Saturday, I would approach the junction [near your house] with anticipation of a happenstance glance and exchange of waves. So powerful the experience, that even on days I didn't see you, your image was a permanent memory immediately revived. Inevitably, every time I passed [your] road a smile and release of the day's junk from my shoulders lifted. It was magical. Without you knowing, you had given me some of your magic. I will remember Doug's kindness, easy going nature and the love for his wife; but mostly, I will remember a couple's trust in each other. V.I.
• I think the best way to honor Doug is to remember and try to practice his best characteristics. For example, his always cheerful spirit and his generous nature for appreciating people. We were all lucky to have known him. Erin U.