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• Blog | Progress, month by month
• Links
• Books
• Stages of Grief
• What to expect when you are bereaved (10/10/2010)
• Planning the services (wake/calling hours/funeral/memorial service) (10/14/2011)
• Quotes and Poems that have touched me
  • I never thought (poem)
• What I need. How to help a grieving person - suggested do's and don'ts. (07/16/2010)
• Words of advice for the to be bereaved - things to do and think about BEFORE a loss (09/08/2010)
• Healing Rituals (07/17/2010)
  • Five candles - a holiday memorial and healing ritual (11/25/2010)
• The dragonfly story, by Doris Stickney (added 06/20/2010)
• My Fears and Worries (06/27/2010)
• Family and Friends cushioning the blow (06/30/2010)
• Changed financial circumstances (07/15/2010)
• Suicide and suicidal thoughts in the midst of grief (07/16/2010)
• Grief & Safety (07/20/2010)
• Interrupting rumination - alternative coping strategies (07/21/2010)
• Regrets and wishes (07/04/2010)
• The things I DON'T regret (07/22/2010)
• "You need to keep busy" (07/24/2010)
• Butterflies as a symbol of hope and new life (07/26/2010)
• Do the departed watch over us? Signs. Legacies. (07/28/2010)
• Living with Guilt and Thoughtworms (07/31/2010)
• Sudden death - what it is like for those left behind (08/11/2010)
• Gift basket ideas (sympathy, condolence, grieving) (08/12/2010)
• Things that trigger tears (08/17/2010)
• Walking Alone (09/04/2010)
• Is it better to have loved and lost, or never to have loved at all? (09/05/2010)
• Redefining Loneliness (09/17/2010)
• Why it is likely that a lifetime of loneliness awaits me. The odds are against being so lucky in love again. (09/26/2010)
• Bereavement Support Groups - pros, cons, bottom line (10/04/2010)
• Planting parsley (10/06/2010)
• Sleepless nights (10/17/2010)
• The Nest of the Loneliness Birds
• Change in Martial Status (10/22/2010)
• The Nest of the Loneliness Birds
• Changes - Physical, Social, Mental and Emotional (11/05/2010)
• Attending a gathering for donor families (05/17/2011)
• Dealing with the ashes (05/18/2011)
• What I am grateful for (06/08/2011)
• Surviving the first year (06/18/2011)
• I met someone (07/11/2011)
• Delving into dating after death or divorce (10/05/2011)
• Planning services (funeral, calling hours, memorial service) (10/14/2011)
• What do I do with the wedding rings? (10/25/2011)
• Do I stay or do I go now? What to do about the house (11/15/2011)
• Guilty of surviving and loving again (12/03/2011)
• Denial (12/13/2011)
• Loss and pain in the heart and brain (12/15/2011)
• Things I was mistaken about (12/27/2011)

Obituary, Eulogies & Condolences

• Obituary
• American Alpine Journal tribute by Bob Plucenik
• Gilman & Valade - Offer condolences or share memories of Doug
• Hartford Courant - Offer condolences or share memories of Doug
• Condolences combined on one page

• Eulogies at the Memorial Service on June 12, 2010
• Sharing Remembrances (Quaker Style)

VIDEOS

• Singing in the Rain video clip. Filmed by Bet while camping in the Gaspe Peninsula. Edited and posted by friend Joe Chapuis of Web Video Zone
• Impromptu Geology Lecture | More about this one.
• The Sun Will Come Up Tomorrow
• The Shootist. Doug and caulking guns (after working on some bluebird houses.) This performance was for my gun enthusiast brother John and his sons.
• Cat conkage. Doug plays with the cat and conks him on the noggin.
• Welcome to the Mouse House. Doug lets out a girlie man scream at the end.
• Doug and the snow
• Z slide show on YouTube, compiled by sister-in-law Tina Gallagher
• Memorial Service
  • Grow Old (Along) with Me, Emily John and Elinor Donahue (added 06/24/2010)
  • Ashokan Farewell, Jeff Davis (added 06/24/2010)

PHOTOS

• Doug and his buddy Tenzing the (Ugly) Cat - Doug wrote most of the captions
• Hand in clouds
• More coming soon - there are so many

ARTICLES

• April is Donate Life Month, Rxtra, Hartford Hospital, 04/4/2011
• Climbers Go Where No One Has Gone Before, Hartford Courant, 08/01/1998
• My Hero (Our Better Nature newspaper column)
• Doug & Bluebirding (added 06/23/2010)
• The Ultimate in Recycling - Organ Donation (including Robert Test's poem "To Remember Me" (Our Better Nature)
• Possum Home Invasion (Our Better Nature)

SHARING & STORIES

• Some of the things I miss about Doug and our life together (07/08/2010)
• Sainthood - Not (07/11/2010)
• The End - what happened in those last days
• Quotes and Poems
• Stories
• Lisa: canoes and clouds
• Channeling Doug - What would Doug do? (06/25/2010)
• The Gift (07/01/2010)
• Sayings (Dougisms) (07/06/2010)
• Rope Man (07/11/2010)
• Our annual Christmas letters and collages (07/21/2010)

GIVING A TRIBUTE TO DOUG

• American Alpine Club - 710 10th St Suite 100, Golden, CO 80401
  • Giving
• Founders of Environmental Earth Science Fund (Eastern CT State University) - c/o ECSU Foundation, 83 Windham St., Willimantic CT 06226
  • Read more about the EES Fund.
  • Doug's experience at Eastern
• Woodstock Historical Society - PO Box 65, Woodstock CT 06281

ALSO

• Organ Donation. Please consider signing up as an organ or tissue donor - More.
• Gifts of Many Colors

THANK YOU

• Special thanks to the non-profits, organizations and businesses who provided invaluable support to us:
  • Aetna Ambulance Service, Inc., of Hartford CT and the heroes who attempted to revive him. Read more.
  • Hartford Hospital Emergency Room Staff and Social Services of Hartford CT.
    • Donation
    • Special thanks to Dr. Michael Drescher, Associate Chief, Division of Emergency Medicine for information, kindness and patience, and to
    • Kelly Pabilionia of Social Services
  • Doug’s last act was giving the gift of sight and healing through tissue donation.
    • LifeChoice Donor Services
      • Special thanks to Sheila Murphy, Tissue Coordinator, LifeChoice
      • Doug Zimmerman's Gift of Life, article in the Villager Newspapers
      • The Ultimate in Recycling - organ donation article from Our Better Nature
  • Gilman & Valade Funeral and Cremation Service in Putnam CT. They helped us through one of the most difficult times in our life.
  • Road ID: The metal ID on Doug's running shoes made it possible for the Emergency Room staff to contact me and Doug's parents immediately. Read more.
  • The Hill Church of Woodstock CT for hosting Doug's memorial service, especially Pastor Jamie Harrison and "the church ladies."
  • Cuisine Duva of Columbia, CT- Paul and Diane Duva for catering at the service and being wonderful friends

HYPERTENSION & BENICAR

• The cause of Doug's untimely death is still being evaluated. He did have hypertension and elevated cholesterol, and was on Benicar HCT and Crestor. Three days after he collapsed, the FDA issued a Drug Safety Communication: Ongoing safety review of Benicar and cardiovascular events. If you are taking Benicar, I urge you to read this notice and discuss alternatives and monitoring with your physician. Read more.

Z FLIX: FILM FESTIVAL

The Woodstock Historical Society sponsored a periodic film series in honor of Doug's life. More info.

MEMORIAL DAY RACE 2011

The Woodstock 10K Memorial Day race in Woodstock CT was dedicated to Doug's memory. His name was on the T-shirts each runner received. More about Doug and running.

GRIEVING

• Blog
• Progress, month by month
• Links
• Books
• Stages of Grief
• What to expect when you are bereaved (10/10/2010)
• Planning the services (wake/calling hours/funeral/memorial service) (10/14/2011)
• Quotes and Poems that have touched me
  • I never thought (poem)
• What I need. How to help a grieving person - suggested do's and don'ts. (07/16/2010)
• Words of advice for the to be bereaved - things to do and think about BEFORE a loss (09/08/2010)
• The dragonfly story, by Doris Stickney (added 06/20/2010)
• My Fears and Worries (06/27/2010)
• Please don't try to force me to eat what I don't need or want (06/28/2010)
• Family and Friends cushioning the blow (06/30/2010)
• Regrets and wishes (07/04/2010)
• Changed financial circumstances (07/15/2010)
• Suicide and suicidal thoughts in the midst of grief (07/16/2010)
• Healing Rituals (07/17/2010)
• Grief & Safety (07/20/2010)
• Interrupting rumination - alternative coping strategies (07/21/2010)
• The things I DON'T regret (07/22/2010)
• "You need to keep busy" (07/24/2010)
• Butterflies as a symbol of hope and new life (07/26/2010)
• The Wish-You-Were-Still-Here Birthday Party/Drunkfest (07/26/2010)
• Do the departed watch over us? Signs. Legacies. (07/28/2010)
• Living with Guilt and Thoughtworms (07/31/2010)
• Sudden death - what it is like for those left behind (08/11/2010)
• Gift basket ideas (sympathy, condolence, grieving) (08/12/2010)
• Things that trigger tears (08/17/2010)
• Reverse "What Ifs?" (08/17/2010)
• Walking Alone (09/04/2010)
• Is it better to have loved and lost, or never to have loved at all? (09/05/2010)
• Redefining Loneliness (09/17/2010)
• Why it is likely that a lifetime of loneliness awaits me. The odds are against being so lucky in love again. (09/26/2010)
• Bereavement Support Groups - pros, cons, bottom line (10/04/2010)
• Planting parsley (10/06/2010)
• Sleepless nights (10/17/2010)
• The Nest of the Loneliness Birds
• Change in Martial Status (10/22/2010)
• The Nest of the Loneliness Birds
• Changes - Physical, Social, Mental and Emotional (11/05/2010)
• Five candles - a holiday memorial and healing ritual (11/25/2010)
• Attending a gathering for donor families (05/17/2011)
• Dealing with the ashes (05/18/2011)
• What I am grateful for (06/08/2011)
• Surviving the first year (06/18/2011)
• I met someone (07/11/2011)
• Delving into dating after death or divorce (10/05/2011)
• Planning services (funeral, calling hours, memorial service) (10/14/2011)